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Daily insights on how to heal your relationship with food

Summer is here and so is more skin. If you don't

Summer is here and so is more skin.
If you don't feel good in yours then seeing other people's smooth limbs frolicking in the sand might make you want to scuttle into the nearest rock pool and hide in shame.

🌼 Here are some things to bear in mind if you have had comparisonitis recently (Beach edition):

Don't take drastic action.
Don't go home and starve yourself.
Know you've been triggered and you will have difficult thoughts about your dinner but those thoughts will pass. Eat. Have your dinner and let the emotions be there.

When you have gathered yourself together, get out your journal and fill in these prompts:

I like myself because....
I love that I...
My body allowed me to enjoy the beach today, in particular... ...
I was so lucky to be at the beach...
No one knows that I feel shame for my body... For all they know I could be super confident and...
I am a lovely person and I could talk to anyone on that beach about...
I could help anyone on that beach with...
If anyone on that beach needed someone who could...., it would be me.

👉 Some affirmations and other thoughts:

I'm seeing more slim people on the beach today but that doesn't mean that people with my body don't exist, they just don't happen to be here today.
It's not wrong for me to have this body.
I have as much a right as anyone to show my body.
When I look around and see women with shaved legs and makeup on I know they too worry about being judged on their bodies. They may not have much fat but they fear not conforming to idealistic standards for women and I know what that feels like. So I emotionally hug them for having to put up with living in the beauty sphere that women are forced to exist in whilst the men walk around unshaven and unmoisturized.

Ok - that last one is a nice little f*ck the patriarchy journal prompt for you.

You need to know these things like the back of your hand because when you get triggered you need to pull these good thoughts out and repeat them like a life-saving mantra!

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#antidiet #intuitiveeating #haes #foodfreedom #healthateverysize #edrecovery #ditchthediet #nondiet #antidietculture #bodypositivity #bo

On a scale of 1 - 10: Where's your stress at right

On a scale of 1 - 10: Where's your stress at right now?

And if it's high, are you noticing that you have been (or considering) counting calories, weighing food, stepping on the scale, or planning your food out for the week?

It's okay! You're not alone, and it makes sense that there's a part of you wanting to control something controllable.

So in this post, I'm not going to tell you to NOT do that if you really feel that, right now you need something to be measured in the chaos of what's going on for you.
But I will give you a suggestion of somethign that you can control and can help you relax at the same time, and this is: your breathing.

A few minutes to breathe in for a count of 4, hold for 4, breathe out for a count of 4 and hold for 4.

Now - if you are wanting to control your food because you feel your body is outta control, and you are having that horrible panic of "Sh*t! How can I control this weight!?"
I hear you, I've been there. One tip for you here is to focus on yummy things that you feel are nourishing that you can add in to your eating and to move and stretch so that you reap the benefits that movement has on your stress levels. But this isn't a fix, but a quick tweak

If you want a super long term fix so that you don't ever feel this panic again, please feel free to check out The Eat Happy Course - my in-depth programme for you if you want to quit dieting and dieting habits for good and find peace with food. There's more info in my bio and get in touch if you have any q's. @eathappy.coach

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I see ya scrolling, but let me ask you: Have you

I see ya scrolling, but let me ask you:

Have you let yourself get lost in the great outdoors recently?

And I don’t mean a walk around the block; I mean – spending untethered time in the wilds, even if that is sitting in your garden – just being, still and quiet and aware of the world you’re a part of.

If not – you might want to consider that really BEING in nature can actually contribute to you finding balance within your relationship with food.

How?

1. It helps you to be outside of yourself.

When you are constantly living in that panic state of having eaten something you said you wouldn’t, then being outside is such a tonic to soothe your soul. If you pay attention to what is around you and really notice it - like birdsong or the feel of the breeze on your skin, you'll get some perspective - even for a moment.

As I write this, I went for a walk earlier and saw a grass snake sunning itself on the path in front of me, and I saw a rare bird I’ve been wanting to see for ages. In those moments of acute awareness, you can’t hold your worries at the exact same moment.

2. Nature doesn’t care what you look like.

If you want some non-judgement, then the outdoors is your pal. Whatever size or shape you are, you belong. The birds will sing as you walk past and dragonflies will land on your hand and there is something super nourishing about connecting to that at a deeper level. A spiritual level even: as you ARE nature, and you are could never be wrong because your body is made from this world.

3. It helps to connect you to the present.

As you take each step, you are focusing on the now – and if you pay some extra mindful attention, your mind comes back from all its future based worries and hopes (which are so prevalent in dieting). In the here and now, you are whole and complete. In there here and now there is no problem.

Are you a nature lover? Where do you enjoy being in nature the most? Sea? Forest? River? Tell me in the comments!

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#antidiet #intuitiveeating #haes #foodfreedom #healthateverysize #edrecovery #ditchthediet #nondiet #antidietculture #bodypositivity #bodypositive #eatingdisorderrecovery #dietculturedropout

Which would you choose: 👉 Peace of mind or –

Which would you choose: 👉

Peace of mind or – emotional Russian roulette?

It really comes down to this: Stop relying on things external* to you to dictate how you should feel.

🌼 Whether that’s praise from other people, rules from a diet book, numbers from a scale or calories on a packet of food. You need to learn to listen to yourself.

🙏 Listen to how you feel. Listen to your body.

💯 It’s okay that you don’t have external rules because you have a built-in internal compass and you can TRUST IT.

>>> If you want to know more about learning to trust yourself, come check out the Eat Happy Course that I'm running this month! Link in bio @eathappy.coach

(*Medical reasons not applicable here).

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In short: It keeps me balanced. I started meditat

In short: It keeps me balanced.

I started meditating in my early 20’s by going to a meditation class in a church hall after work, and I always say that it saved me. I found something that I could anchor myself to – awareness and the present moment - when I desperately needed an anchor.

So by now I’ve been meditating for, oh shit, like 12 years + I guess! But not every day, and I’m not always mindful! In fact, I’ve found it’s not a bad thing to *not* be constantly meditating and super mindful.

It’s not a bad thing to tune out, but I still come back to meditation because I’ve discovered that it creates space in my mind. It helps me focus. It helps me to come back to calm if I’ve become flustered, and it helps me to be friends with myself and my body because being mindful is about connecting to the senses through the body.

Also – I find it magical. It’s like tapping into another dimension, and it can feel so powerful to be in the present moment. Like – I AM HERE!

So tell me – if you read this far: Do you meditate? Have you ever or would you be interested?

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You don't have to be on a diet to have a dieter's

You don't have to be on a diet to have a dieter's mindset.

👉 That's because you were brought up in diet culture, and there's no way that some of the food rules that all the diets you've been around won't have left a mark on you. And there's no way you have been totally protected from all the shame that the diet industry spouts out.

🌼 Talking of shame: There's no shame if you feel or think any of these things.

Awareness is your friend.

❤️ It can REALLY help to tell yourself "I'm thinking this because of diet culture, not because it's true."

🤔 Do you see yourself in some of these?

And as the last slide shows: I'm running the Eat Happy Course very soon, and you can still catch the early bird offer before June 1st. @eathappy.coach

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That's all this needs to say really is: Don't comm

That's all this needs to say really is:
Don't comment on people's bodies.

End of.

It's become normal, conversational, even expected, to say something about how people look. And it's really hard to know where the line is sometimes - but ultimately, we don't need to say anything. Even if we want to give what we think is a compliment, it's still focusing on appearances and surely, we'd all be happier if we gave less f**ks about appearances!

Comments on how people look can be really difficult for people struggling with body image or disordered eating so we do need to learn to be careful. (And yes, I believe that counting random food numbers is disordered - just because it's common doesn't mean it's not disordered!)

I'm with you if you are scratching your head, thinking "What? Can't I say someone looks beautiful?"
Ultimately - it's up to you! But you might have had the same experience as me of feeling that appearance-based comments are immersion-breaking. You may be enjoying a conversation, and then when you receive a comment based on how you look, you might spend the rest of the time concerned about how you are appearing and focusing on your image instead.

I don't think there are hard and fast rules here, but perhaps this serves as a reminder to try to limit appearance-based comments and see what happens.

What do you think? Do you think you'd be happier if people stop commenting on your body?

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#bodyneutrality #bodypositivity #bodypositive #bodyacceptance #selflove #allbodiesaregoodbodies #haes #antidiet #bopo #fatacceptance #edrecovery #intuitiveeating #healthateverysize #effyourbeautystandards #fatpositive #fatliberation #bodyimage #mentalhealth #bodykindness #bodyneutral #dietculture #bodyliberation #bodypositivemovement #antidietculture #selfcare #fitness #bodyrespect #eatingdisorderrecovery #plussize #bhfyp
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🌼Toot Toot! The Course is back! ☀️ Are you

🌼Toot Toot! The Course is back! ☀️

Are you going to be one of our group for the Eat Happy Course - Summer 2021?
I surely hope so 🙂

We're going to be looking at how YOU can quit dieting for good by learning some super mindset changes to keep you balanced, and friends with food (and yourself of course) for the long term. No more scales dictating your mood, no more calories controlling your life - it's time to live your life feeling good about who you are, and food just isn't a problem anymore - instead, it will be a yummy addition to your day that feels easy peasy because you'll be able to choose what to eat based on your new intuitive eating skillz.

🌸 This course is gonna be starting pretty soon and if you fancy an early bird discount (for 15% off, I kid you not!) then pop in this code at checkout: 👉 earlybird15

👏 I've got 8 yummy modules for you, which we will work through together over 6 weeks with a chilled out and friendly session each Thursday evening (7-9pm). We're starting June 24th through to the end of July and there are more deets in the booking page (Linky in bio).

If you're one of my overseas friends, I hope my UK time suits, but if not - I will send you a separate video class of the module if you can't always make it.

This is a course for you if you want to quit dieting, so take a look at the link in bio where you'll find all the info - and don't forget to DM me if you want to know more!

Warm hugs,

Rebecca x

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