Your eating is a reflection of your deeply held beliefs about yourself.
So your eating is telling you a LOT!
- If you don’t think you are good enough
- If you think you can’t handle stuff
- If you think you are lazy
Then all of these negative self-thoughts will become evident in how you eat, and how you think about food.
If you are overeating or emotional eating or binge eating, you are reaffirming a belief that you are not that worthy, and you’re not good at coping. If, on the other hand, you are full of rigid rules around eating, you can’t relax, or you count everything; it shows a deep fear of not being perfect and not being able to handle the messiness of something that isn’t controlled.
This is all good stuff. Really. This is why I always saying our eating is our greatest teacher and will heal us from deep within, if we are willing to turn towards it and be open.
You can start to change self-beliefs from today…
….but it does take some time. The first step is to try and become aware of them. Do you journal? If not, now is a good time to start. If you think you do hold some lousy self thoughts about yourself, do talk to me!
You’ll also need to start saying some positive things to yourself based on any inkling you have about your negative beliefs. Core beliefs are created early in our lives, but we are adaptable and we can change them with time.
Start to let yourself know;
- that you ARE capable,
- you CAN cope,
- and you ARE worthy and valuable.
Sometimes seeing is believing, so to really move along the change in these old beliefs, it is a good idea to start to act in a way that is counter to what they are trying to tell you. And guess what? You can do this at the dinner table!
Begin by letting yourself feel whatever you feel after eating. Seriously – that small action is a huge shift. Often we run away, and make promises to do better next time. I challenge you to hold that feeling. Sit with it, write it out, or cry it out. Feel the difficult feeling you get after eating. Become a scientist and ask yourself where you are feeling these emotions, and how intense are they and how long do they last.
This can help give a more subjective view point which can help lessen their strength.
If you want to know more, I have updated my Three Day Plan which guides you through three days of skills to improve your eating relationship.