how to stop self sabotage!
So it might surprise you to know that self-sabotage is built right into dieting.
Yup, you heard me.
Diets are the way to self-sabotage yourself.
Think about it, the only thing you can self sabotage is a plan, right? If you didn’t have a plan or a schedule, there wouldn’t be anything to sabotage.
So the first thing we need to look at is:
Are your goals realistic?
Are they even humanly possible? Some of my clients expect some pretty difficult things from themselves! They want to go through the day with just three square meals, and no snacking. They think it’s possible because a) They’ve done it before or b) They see others doing it, so it shouldn’t be so hard!
Either the food they are eating just isn’t conducive to going all day (i.e. not filling, not nourishing, too refined) – or more likely, they are going against the grain of who they are. Past experience has shown them that this is not a good strategy for them – but they are determined. Well, until they sabotage themselves. Because this isn’t really them mucking up their plans, their plans aren’t realistic so they are bound to fail – but the individual feels like THEY are the failure.
This is the evil genius of dieting. Somehow – we never blame the diet! We just blame ourselves. Come on! This is ridiculous. Diets fail. You don’t fail.
Are you scared of perfection?
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us. – Marianne Williamson
Obsessed with the outcome and not the process
What to do:
Make sure any goals and aims are realistic. In fact, scrap goals, and just have looser intentions around your eating. Remember that eating is always a balancing act and sometimes we wobble more! But make your intentions nice and broad to account for any small wobbles that are a part of living this life.
So be kind to yourself, look after yourself, and eat happy!